'The One'

 

'The One'

            The journey starts with the introduction of your name and where you are from. We are all searching for the one. Call it whatever you want, but every day we think of people; whether it is someone from a few years back or it is someone from the night before. Men and women have different minds and ways of thinking, but we both share the same goal of finding someone who we can spend the rest of our lives with. Finding the perfect one is something we cannot do through searching; rather the perfect one presents itself when we are least expecting it. When we put effort into looking for someone, we find ourselves in an even deeper hole than before. When we are not thinking about relationships, the opportunities begin to illuminate themselves. When we finally meet the person we think that is right, we know it. We know it immediately, or at least we think so. You see them for a couple seconds and the attractiveness of the person is checked off the list. You talk and hangout with the person for a few weeks and you check off their personality and their ability to communicate with you. From there, the journey can take a turn for the worse or can continue to make you excited for the Friday and Saturday night dates. But once you know you like someone and everything is perfect, how do you know if they are ‘the one’? You don’t. It takes time, trust, and experiencing. The moment you find out who ‘the one’ is, is they day you realize that the one for you will do anything for you. If you find yourself at your lowest point and your partner is at their highest and they lower themselves to bring you up, you’ve found a special person. What separates ‘the one’ from the ones you do not want is that ‘the one’ will give up their time and effort for you when the time is most inconvenient for them and they are at the busiest point of their day. Those who are average will give up their time when it is convenient for them. When you are in trouble and a person comes to you in the middle of the night or when you need a favor and they volunteer without hesitation to support you, you’ve found a special person.

            The mistake many people tend to make is that when ‘the one’ finally comes along in the journey, people are too accustomed to dealing with the average people, so they think that ‘the one’ is either too good for them or is different and not for them. This is why the ‘good guy’ never wins because girls usually want the guy who is a bad***. In life, the person who is different can be the person you need to meet. Billionaires have different mindsets than the average. CEO’s have different mindsets than those who are working under them. Those with different minds are the ones who open this world up for us and are the ones who are the opportunity to something new. So, when you are searching for the one, do not search. Wait for the one who is different to come up to you and then, at that moment; you will realize that the opportunity is at your right hand.

            Life has so much to offer and there are so many people in this world. If something does not work out for you, move on. When one door closes, another door opens. It is a fact. It may not open immediately, but with enough patience; the door will open. Just as a storm passes over, so does the stress of hoping to find someone perfect for you. Some storms are strong. Some relationships are difficult. Some storms are weak. Some relationships are over in a few weeks. The sun will rise and the sun will set. But at the same moment, you must realize that if you do meet someone and things are not working out, you should not give up and move on in an instant. If you want someone, put everything you have on the table and risk it. We were not given money to hold onto it until we meet our grave. Money is a form of risk and we are given the money to use when we need it. In regards to a relationship, your money is your commitment to the person you have feelings for. You must take the risk of that person saying they do not want you anymore or that the time is not right for them. But you must take the chance if you want to know how it could have been. We all regret something in life. Do not let the person of your dreams walk away without you trying. Do not try to get the person back. Give yourself away to the person and let them decide. You can do as much as you can and say as much as you want, but at some point, it is in the hands of the other partner.

            Essentially, life has its teachings for us and we are taking the journey to find someone who we can spend the rest of our lives with. We will meet thousands of people, connect with hundreds, and date many. We meet people for a reason. If a person is meant to be in our lives, then they will find a way into it. God has a plan for us all and it is one amazing plan. If you have someone you like, tell them. If the relationship has fallen off, do not think that you have lost it all. Think that you can be remarkable and find a way to get back together with that person. Make sacrifices for the one you care about and at the moment where it matters most; give up everything you have for that special person. Be who you are and learn as much as you can. Life is extraordinary. Relationships are a risk, but make the promises that you can make and commit to. Commit with your heart and everything will turn out how it should. Give it a chance.

 

-Austin McClain Baker

 

 

 

 

 

 

Austin Baker

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