Showing posts with label Make It Happen. Show all posts
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Tuesday, October 7, 2014

Learning Experience


Learning Experience

            As you enter your freshman year of college, you realize that you can start on a new slate and you can be whoever you choose to be. Usually, you will attempt to change and be someone other than you were in high school, but in the end your true character will unfold itself and trying to be someone other than yourself will not work to your advantage. When you leave high school, you leave your friends and past life in the back of your mind and begin focusing on your new journey. That journey begins with learning how to sign up for classes, knowing where your lectures are held, figuring out how to purchase food, and much more. However, the most important part of the journey is discovering who you are and discovering who your true friends are. In college, you will constantly come across new people and you will build relationships and make new connections with students from across the country and beyond.
            However, meeting hundreds and maybe even thousands of people will make you feel as if you are friends with everyone. You will have hundreds of phone numbers, followers on social media sites, and you will know the names of so many. But, if you sit back and think about which ones are your true friends, how do you know? Ask yourself the question, “If I were to leave college today, how many of the people that I met would contact me ever again to see how I am doing?” So, how do we know who our true friends are?
            Well, it is the ‘learning experience’ which enables you with the ability to clearly determine who will always be there for you. In college, we are learning a different life in a foreign environment. We are persistently learning fresh knowledge about life, relationships, academics, ourselves, and miscellaneous information that we will use to be successful. It takes messing up to not make a mistake again. Therefore, it takes experiencing to even have the chance of making a poor decision. So does this mean that we should all make poor decisions early in our lives so that we may have a wider understanding of how not to mess up? Yes and no. We should not aim to make non-intellectual decisions, but once you enter adulthood, any decision can affect your reputation and ability to acquire a job. Making one corrupt choice can cause your downfall when you reach an age where you are expected to never make poor judgments. For college students, the time is almost at its end to make poor decisions and still be able to bounce back in a reasonable amount of time.
            Essentially, the most important aspect of college besides attaining an education is to find yourself and to find who your true friends are. Secondly, it takes the ‘learning experience’ to realize who your true friends are and inside of the ‘learning experience’ consists of several things. First, you must mess up to find who your friends are. You will know when you messed up and learned something that will serve to better you when you wake up and think about who was there to help you. You must fail. Without failing, how do you know how it feels to be at a low-point in your life? You must also learn to adapt. If you cannot adapt to your surroundings, you will never grow. If you are not growing, you will fail to reach your highest potential. You will experience a lot in college and will learn an abundance of life-knowledge.
            In my perspective, you will learn more in one weekend than you will learn in a week in college. Academics are vital to your success, but life-skills and common sense, which is only attained through experiencing firsthand, is what enables you to accomplish the toughest of tasks. If you do not know who you are, then what purpose does academic knowledge have? It starts with YOU and discovering what YOU enjoy doing, what YOU want to do with YOUR life, and who YOU want to be. We are in college to learn and gain new knowledge, but we are also here for four years or more if we head to graduate school, to learn about the things we cannot be taught by a professor or by our parents.
            You will discover who your true friends are when you have a poor experience or make a poor decision because those who care about you will be by your side the entire time. You will have your friends. You will have your best buds. You will have your party friends. You will have your business friends. And you will have your lifelong friends. You place the people you know into different groups based on their importance and connection to you. Learning is endless. Find who you are and find who your true friends are. Learn to learn and live to learn.

 -Austin McClain Baker
Austin Baker 

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Sunday, September 14, 2014

'The One'

 
'The One'

            The journey starts with the introduction of your name and where you are from. We are all searching for the one. Call it whatever you want, but every day we think of people; whether it is someone from a few years back or it is someone from the night before. Men and women have different minds and ways of thinking, but we both share the same goal of finding someone who we can spend the rest of our lives with. Finding the perfect one is something we cannot do through searching; rather the perfect one presents itself when we are least expecting it. When we put effort into looking for someone, we find ourselves in an even deeper hole than before. When we are not thinking about relationships, the opportunities begin to illuminate themselves. When we finally meet the person we think that is right, we know it. We know it immediately, or at least we think so. You see them for a couple seconds and the attractiveness of the person is checked off the list. You talk and hangout with the person for a few weeks and you check off their personality and their ability to communicate with you. From there, the journey can take a turn for the worse or can continue to make you excited for the Friday and Saturday night dates. But once you know you like someone and everything is perfect, how do you know if they are ‘the one’? You don’t. It takes time, trust, and experiencing. The moment you find out who ‘the one’ is, is they day you realize that the one for you will do anything for you. If you find yourself at your lowest point and your partner is at their highest and they lower themselves to bring you up, you’ve found a special person. What separates ‘the one’ from the ones you do not want is that ‘the one’ will give up their time and effort for you when the time is most inconvenient for them and they are at the busiest point of their day. Those who are average will give up their time when it is convenient for them. When you are in trouble and a person comes to you in the middle of the night or when you need a favor and they volunteer without hesitation to support you, you’ve found a special person.
            The mistake many people tend to make is that when ‘the one’ finally comes along in the journey, people are too accustomed to dealing with the average people, so they think that ‘the one’ is either too good for them or is different and not for them. This is why the ‘good guy’ never wins because girls usually want the guy who is a bad***. In life, the person who is different can be the person you need to meet. Billionaires have different mindsets than the average. CEO’s have different mindsets than those who are working under them. Those with different minds are the ones who open this world up for us and are the ones who are the opportunity to something new. So, when you are searching for the one, do not search. Wait for the one who is different to come up to you and then, at that moment; you will realize that the opportunity is at your right hand.
            Life has so much to offer and there are so many people in this world. If something does not work out for you, move on. When one door closes, another door opens. It is a fact. It may not open immediately, but with enough patience; the door will open. Just as a storm passes over, so does the stress of hoping to find someone perfect for you. Some storms are strong. Some relationships are difficult. Some storms are weak. Some relationships are over in a few weeks. The sun will rise and the sun will set. But at the same moment, you must realize that if you do meet someone and things are not working out, you should not give up and move on in an instant. If you want someone, put everything you have on the table and risk it. We were not given money to hold onto it until we meet our grave. Money is a form of risk and we are given the money to use when we need it. In regards to a relationship, your money is your commitment to the person you have feelings for. You must take the risk of that person saying they do not want you anymore or that the time is not right for them. But you must take the chance if you want to know how it could have been. We all regret something in life. Do not let the person of your dreams walk away without you trying. Do not try to get the person back. Give yourself away to the person and let them decide. You can do as much as you can and say as much as you want, but at some point, it is in the hands of the other partner.
            Essentially, life has its teachings for us and we are taking the journey to find someone who we can spend the rest of our lives with. We will meet thousands of people, connect with hundreds, and date many. We meet people for a reason. If a person is meant to be in our lives, then they will find a way into it. God has a plan for us all and it is one amazing plan. If you have someone you like, tell them. If the relationship has fallen off, do not think that you have lost it all. Think that you can be remarkable and find a way to get back together with that person. Make sacrifices for the one you care about and at the moment where it matters most; give up everything you have for that special person. Be who you are and learn as much as you can. Life is extraordinary. Relationships are a risk, but make the promises that you can make and commit to. Commit with your heart and everything will turn out how it should. Give it a chance.

 
-Austin McClain Baker
 
 
 
 
 
 
Austin Baker
Twitter/Instagram: @ABakerPresident
DreamsDriveDetermination@gmail.com
Austin.Baker25@yahoo.com
 
 

Tuesday, June 3, 2014

What Book Inspires You?



Walk-On

             Many people are involved in sports for the money and fame, but why would you not want to be the person everyone is raving about. Indeed, Alan Williams grew up with the mindset all children had to become the world’s greatest player, but he turned out to be even more of an inspiration than the select few who have become hall of fame basketball players. “I’m always bothered when I read biographies that only focus on the “success” of a person’s life” (4). Alan Williams quoted this because he believes anyone can speak on their success stories, but no one can relate to them as well as one’s stories regarding failure.
            Alan Williams grew up in Memphis, Tennessee as he enjoyed hanging out with friends and playing basketball to the point where his mother would count down from three to get him inside. In the summer after Alan’s Sophomore Year of High School, he attended the Pittsburgh session of the Five Star basketball camp at Robert Morris College. Alan was 6 foot 2 and 175 pounds throughout high school and college. He was a strong basketball player, but he was not at the size Division 1 college’s prefer. Howard Garfinkle was well-known by college coaches for developing any young basketball players. Garfinkle saw Alan’s potential and helped him out by telling notable division 1 coaches that he liked the way Alan played. He saw behind Alan’s athletic skills that he was a well-mannered, intelligent student as well. After many talks with coaches, Alan would have thought more colleges would be looking at him, but this was not the case. On March 5, 2000 Alan decided to walk-on at Wake Forest University. Alan was excited, but he knew that the chance to play in actual games would be tough as Wake Forest was a renowned team at the time.
            Alan’s life changed in his freshman year of college on a Saturday in September. Alan was tying his basketball shoes and about to head onto the Reynolds Gymnasium court when Tim Duncan came up to him and said “What’s up man?’ At that moment, Alan felt that he had reached his first goal of becoming a college basketball player and that someone important acknowledged him. But weeks later, Skip Prosser was named the new Head Coach at Wake Forest coming from Xavier, which meant Alan still had to fight for a spot on the team. Garfinkle called Prosser and said, “You gotta keep Alan Williams on the team.” Prosser responded with “What’s in Alan Williams?” Garfinkle stated back, “Trust me on this one Skip; you’ll never forget it.” Alan was driven to succeed and he would work out with Robert O’Kelly, the ACC Freshmen of the year as often as possible. Alan looked up to him because; Robert was personable, enthusiastic, caring and presented himself in a humble manner. He always looked out for Alan and showed him respect. After weeks of strenuous workouts with early mornings and late nights, the team was given practice bags. Although, Alan did not see a bag sitting on his locker. He had gone to every workout, lifted every weight, and ran every mile, but did not receive a team bag. Alan questioned whether or not he could endure anymore discouraging situations, but later that night when Alan came to his locker to pack-up, he found a practice bag with the #4 on his locker. That was not his number. He looked around the locker room and noticed it was Robert O’Kelly’s. He did not understand why Robert O’Kelly had given up his bag for him.
            Alan was clearly smaller than anyone else on the team and it affected him at workouts because the weights were too heavy and it was challenging. A teammate came up to Alan after a workout and said “Alan, you gonna do this next year?” Alan responded, “Well, Yeah and his teammate responded with, “Why dude? You’re never gonna play.” But as a leader would do, he kept putting forth all of his effort and did not back down. Trying harder than any of the other guys to make up for his size, Alan was the easy laugh of the basketball team and people joked around about him commonly. On one occasion, the team was running a 5k race and all of the players cut corners and finished first. Alan followed the path and finished last. He was laughed at by the team for not playing by their ‘rules’, but he was not used to cutting corners in life. Another scenario was when Alan’s professor thought he was on a recreational team and after Alan told him he was on the basketball team, the teacher thought he was just a manager. Challenged, tired, exhausted, and the physical aspects of being the ‘joke’ of the team at races, on the court and in the weight room, weighed Alan down. His grandfather had always told him “God’s hand is in everything.” But Alan did not see where God’s hand was helping him because, in high school he was the Student Body President, First Team All-State selection in basketball, and he was named by USA Today as one of the top twenty players in Tennessee. He was inconsistent with his religious life, because “he had everything he needed or at least he thought.” But as he began to trust the Lord during difficult times, life began to fall into place in a more positive way.  He began attending the preaching each week and followed bible verses. He learned to prepare and stay organized to reduce the anxiety and stress that would overcome him in the past. His dad had taught him a lot about success, preparation, and how they go hand-in hand with opportunities.
            When Alan’s first game had come, he entered Maryland’s stadium and immediately, fans made fun of him and told him he looked like a twelve year-old boy. But one fan said, “Hey twenty, you’re the man. You gotta love a guy who is just playing for the love of the game.” Alan appreciated his comment and felt proud that he had supporters. Alan asked himself questions such as, “Why am I here? Who am I serving? What is my purpose?” He is honest to himself and believes the answer to those questions is found in the heart. He came so far in the season from working out and dedicating the majority of his life to basketball. Days after his freshman season, Coach Odom informed Alan that he may not be taking walk-ons the next season. At the moment, Alan learned that in life, our positions are not guaranteed. He and his parents had faith in the Lord that great things would come out of this negative situation. His mom and dad advised him that he should only take one step at a time and he decided to ask his strength coach from high school to work out with him, since he was prohibited from working with the team. This displays his determination to keep going and to persevere past the pessimistic challenges and memories.
            After a summer of great effort and long days of practice, Alan earned a spot back on the team. He did not receive the new uniforms or practice gear, but he did not care. Coach Odom resigned and Skip Prosser came in. Alan may not have been the strongest player, but he improved each day and coach Prosser soon saw his determination to accomplish his goals. Alan learned as a kid from his dad to write everything down. Alan hung up his goals and how he would accomplish them on his bathroom mirror. “Talking about getting better was one thing, but doing it was another.” Soon after the season, coach Prosser called in Alan Williams to his office and informed Alan that they were looking for a player who was much bigger than Alan. He did not know why, once again why he was cut from the Wake Forest basketball team. He traveled down a side road and parked his car to think about the entire situation he just endured. He was depressed, but realized he had been chasing his dream for such a long time and that he was going to get back on the team. At the preseason opener the next season, Alan saw his teammates on the court and was absolutely positive he would get back on the court. He was inspired to work harder and follow his dreams. Days before the walk-on tryout, Alan encountered coach Battle at Golden Corral and he inspired Alan by describing how he was a walk-on and then became the team captain. Alan did great at the tryout and made the team. He felt blessed and excited to be back with his teammates.
            He took two mission trips to Mexico, one to Romania, and one to Ukraine. He realized how different societies were because in Ukraine, there were children who attended his one week basketball camp only bringing two pairs of clothes and shoes with numerous holes in them. In Mexico, he preached the gospel to young kids for their first time and they did not understand his reading at first, but then one child said, “If Jesus no die, then nobody be saved at all.” He inspired a young children whose grandfather had died in the war and taught him that God has a path for everyone. Alan described how his parents were encouraging to him and not critical of anything, which allowed him to achieve things on his own. On July 22, 2001 Alan’s dad was diagnosed with Leukemia and at that moment, Alan took that weakness is the place we experience God’s strength. He had perseverance to keep setting out to achieve goals because his dad was determined to beat cancer. He learned that in life there are no guarantees of where you will go, what will happen and how long you will live. When Alan’s senior year came, he was excited about the relationships he had with his teammates and the team they were going to put together that year. They made it to the Sweet Sixteen in the NCAA tournament, but fell short after losing. To St. Joseph’s. The greatest moment for Alan was getting in the last 11.34 seconds. In his career, Alan played over 4,000 hours of basketball, but only played for 59 minutes and scored 28 points. 120 games and only 10 baskets made. It is unimaginable to put that much work into something and only receive small results. The results were small for the terms of basketball, but Alan influenced lives, worked harder than anyone, and never gave up. Alan stated in his book, “I was just Alan Williams, and a man chose to take an interest in me that no one else was willing to take.”
            I chose this book for multiple reasons, such as because it deals with sports and not giving up. I also met Alan Williams in 8th grade and he was inspirational and a great guy. This book is very simple to relate with because in life, you are never guaranteed anything. You must work towards everything you want and it takes the effort and determination to achieve success. I can also relate to this book because my dad taught me as a young kid to write down everything and I have quotes, goals, and dreams that I plan on achieving in my life. It takes someone who is well –organized, dedicated and prompt to achieve their goals, just as Alan Williams. I also chose this book because it follows the exact path that happened to me. I made the middle school team and won awards in Georgia and Cooperstown, New York for baseball just as Alan did and then I did not make the high school team in my freshman year of high school. I never missed a workout from September 1st- February 19th and I was much smaller than anyone else. I had to use the same weights that kids who were much bigger than me were using, but I managed to do it. I put in double the effort to hang with everyone else. I was disappointed when I failed to make the team, but I was determined to make the team sophomore year and I worked even harder than I did Freshman year. When sophomore year came, I was faster, stronger, and absolutely better at hitting and defense. Everything had improved tremendously and once again I did not miss a single workout the entire season. When the time came in the middle of February, I was not on the roster and I did not know why. I had done everything the coaches asked for and put in as much work as I could have possibly put in. I was dispirited, but I was motivated to try new things and achieve the goals that I had planned. Alan Williams began preaching and wrote a book. My goals are to publish my essay about My Grandpa and My Life, publish a quote book, and to build a homeless shelter.
            I learned a lot about the leadership portrayed in this book. This book mentions a lot about equality and how we should all work together as a team and trusting one another is important. I also learned that motivation, determination, and goal-setting are key to achieving anything. Believing and our trust in the Lord is difficult to remember sometimes when we face challenging issues, but it is necessary to always believe that God is there to help and that everything is happening for a specific reason. Hope and faith are discussed numerous times in the book Walk-On and the bible verses and quotes from people who inspired Alan Williams are motivating aspects of this story that influence anyone reading this book to take control of your life and be a leader. Not letting anyone tell you that you’re not good enough is one of the most important pieces of life. If you have self-confidence and believe you can do something, why let an opinion dispirit you. A leader thinks positive and stays on track with their goals so that they can and will achieve the goals and dreams that they wrote down.
            After reading this book, I learned that I should never let an opinion lead me in the opposite direction in which I had planned. If people, even my friends tell me I shouldn’t do something because I am not the ‘right type’ I will set out to find the answer and achieve what I planned. Also, this book taught me to enjoy the moments I have in life and take everything I do seriously and also in a positive manner. As a father, I will not force my kids to practice, or do extra sports work because they are not represented by how good they are at sports. Life is much more than sports and the name on the back of your jersey. I hope to listen to other for guidance and take information that is encouraging as helpful, rather than thinking the person is being critical. Indeed, I hope to take more charge of what I am capable of accomplishing and begin to challenge myself to the maximum. Leadership is not always being the sole person telling everyone what to do. A leader can also be the smallest person, guiding and providing others with helpful information, tips, and advice to aid them. A leader is also the one who is using teamwork rather than independent work. Walk-On teaches more than just a story about a man who faced multiple challenges and found ways to overcome them. This book teaches lessons about life; when you are in troubled times, happy times, and also guidelines of living a determined and motivated lifestyle.
 
 
-Austin McClain Baker
 
 
Austin Baker
Twitter: @ABakerPresident
Email: DreamsDriveDetermination@gmail.com
 
 

Sunday, April 20, 2014

The College Decision


 
“The College Decision”

            Ever since pondering the idea of attending college, The University of Georgia has been my dream school. I was always talking, writing, thinking, and dreaming about the school, city, football, mascot, and more. However, since growing up and realizing that every college has its own fun and its own extracurricular activities, I discovered that I only liked Georgia for their athletics, mascot, and colors. Although their Business Program is nationally ranked and their Risk Management and Insurance program is ranked #1 in the entire country, I've seen students graduate from the most prestigious programs and work an "average" job with an "average" salary. On the other hand, I have witnessed people earn 6-figure and even 9-figure salaries from universities that are generalized as party schools or poorly educated universities.
            It has taken time, effort, and a significant amount of patience to choose where I will attend college these next four years. After applying to 14 schools, I thought I would never have enough time to narrow down my choices. After much research, phone calls, and open house tours, I was able to condense my choices down to Georgia, NC State, High Point, Wilmington, and George Mason. Then, I chose to visit again and research some more. However, I only managed to narrow down my choices to three; UGA, NC State, and High Point. This past month has been hectic. Many adults have told me to attend High Point. Students say Georgia. Other adults say NC State. I had no answer because so many opinions were thrown into my mind. Each person had their own reasoning behind the motive of attending one of the three schools still remaining on my list.
            I had no direction of where to go next, except to continue researching. But over the past two weeks, I have begun to understand that research only helps so much. Determining where one should attend college cannot be answered by a calculator, research, our friends, or even by our own parents. The decision on where to attend college is made by the one who will be in the classroom for the next four or more years. All I could think of doing was praying to God asking Him for guidance and signs that He may provide me with. Signs began to illuminate in my life. They were not direct signals from God, but rather they were indirect messages. The indirect signs I received from God facilitated my understanding on why I am attending college and what college is truly for. There were so many factors that I have analyzed; retention rates, graduation rates, job placement rates, course offerings, networking options, clubs, and more. I discovered that I needed to choose a college that fit my personality, goals, aspirations, and dreams.
            After touring The University of Georgia and attending a football game, I thought I had found my school. After visiting NC State, I found a place that I could see myself attending. But my final tour was at High Point University. I felt the presence of people who shared the same goals as me. I found myself admiring the words coming out of Nido Qubein's voice because he talked about "being the ONE", "Making a difference", "Not being average" and "Chasing your dreams." I felt connected to everything he spoke on and I felt that High Point could be THE school for me. I chose to place a deposit at the conclusion of the Open House on April 17th at High Point University, but while on my drive home I felt that I wanted to attend NC State or Georgia.
            After intense thought on my own and many nights in bed not being able to sleep because all I could think about was which college to attend, I came to a final answer. I recognized that I had been thinking wrong the entire time. I had been thinking about what I wanted and not what I needed. I wanted parties, Game Day football, tailgating while wearing scarlet red and black, and a school with credentials. But I finally understood that what I needed was an education that focused on experiencing and networking. I don't need an education at an institution where people attend for the purpose of its credentials and use it as a label. I want to apply myself and become the ONE who makes a difference and continue to be someone who is not "average". After much thought, conversations, and prayers I have officially declared my commitment to attend High Point University.
            I have the opportunity to attend a University where students thrive in an inspiring environment. I am confident that I will receive an education different from any other institution because High Point focuses on experiential learning, not memorization of textbooks. I have found my new home for the next four years and I am beyond blessed. Through all of the challenges in the past year with my family, I am proud to see where everything has ended up. My parents, my sister, and I have ways been close but since the divorce of my parents, we have grown farther apart in some aspects, but we have also learned how to adapt and cherish the time we have with one another. My mother and father have taught me more than I can imagine and my sister has been there for me since day one always supporting my dreams. My grandpa has been an inspiration for me to stay away from drugs and to focus on being a successful man. I owe everything to God because He chose to place me in this world and He has given me a chance to accomplish anything I desire. I have such a supportive group of friends and family and I am truly fortunate. I cannot explain how blessed I am, but I would like to thank everyone for the guidance, support, and wisdom over the past 18 years. I have many goals, dreams, and plans for my future and I am confident that High Point University will provide me with the opportunity to gain knowledge and skills that will enable me to be a successful business man, adult, and human-being.

 

-Austin McClain Baker
 
 
Austin Baker
Twitter: @ABakerPresident
 




 Dreams, Drive, Determination